What makes you uncomfortable in larp?

[Kamica]

My first game, to be honest, I kinda got intimidated by this fire elemental (Don’t know his name) He was at Teonn: Accord. Though I knew very well he was just acting XD.

Anyway, I did my best to insult people as a bandit in that same event… 'tis harder than it seems! I keep thinking I might actually hurt their feelings XD.

[Mandos]

So currently only a couple of LARPs under my belt but so far experienced nothing that made me uncomfortable so would have to put down, 'Boundaries as yet undiscovered".

The only time I felt like I needed to confirm an action was a dismissive bump into someone as I walked by, and I wouldn’t have done it had I felt reasonably sure the player would be Ok with it. (Checked with them later as well to ensure I didn’t cross any boundaries for them).

So far I have found all the people I have encountered during LARPs to be really good at judging boundaries of the people around and I see at times some things acted out and others verbally described and it shifts from group to group, situation to situation so it looks like most people have a really good awareness around it.

[Aiwe]

I told the other player no, I didn’t want to, but over a period of a few months, I got bullied into it because “all the other players were putting in so much effort” and basically, the other player would not take no for answer.

Learn to tell people to f@#k off . Lovely girl is expected to be nice and so is pressured more than big scary guys - she will not say no, she will not be rude, she will not want to hurt anyone’s feelings, she will not slap anyone’s face even if they totally deserve it. Start thinking that slapping people’s faces is fun. You can practice on Vanya.

to pick an example ENTIRELY AT RANDOM

Cheers, mate The difference between how players treat crew or other players was noted before, part of us being nice to each other while playing is that we don’t wanna ruin roleplaying for someone who actually created so much of their own stuff rather than crew people who usually get many different roles assigned to them. I was actually expecting that Adara may end up burnt or something like that (which would be awesome), but I guess love potions and tribal gypsy fun kept her alive Till someone who doesn’t care about any of those appeared I insist that this case should be included into all study books for little newbie larpers when we print them, as example of how the ability stops working when you stop chanting :mrgreen:

even worse is that often such dominant behaviour is encouraged as it’s regarded as “Strong roleplay”

To use the fashionable word, people should take responsibility for their roleplaying. In other words, if you upset people too much they will go roleplay with someone nicer. Enjoyment in larp is more important than authenticity.

[Cheryl]

When either GMing or playing, the thing that I’m most uncomfortable with is the bullying that often goes on in games. People that have forceful OOC personalities tend to exert pressure on characters (Or the players) of less forceful players regardless of whether they should be able to IC. Admittedly it’s difficult to get people not to be themselves, but even worse is that often such dominant behaviour is encouraged as it’s regarded as “Strong roleplay”. This tends to perpetuate that behaviour and often discourages those bullied from playing, especially if they are newer players.

This is one of - if not THE - problem I have in larps. I dislike people using their physical presence to exert themselves so forcefully that they end up freaking me out ooc as well. It happens IC, and depending on the characters involved I try to react appropriately, but there’s definitely been times where I have curbed my rp for fear of nasty ooc reactions.

Larping has definitely been an outlet for angst and a platform for experience. I’ve deliberately made characters that push my boundaries, a little more each time. While many have expressed a discomfort for performing, I am currently shaping a character to BE a performer, in order to push my self-conciousness and inhibitions.

Hard drug use is something I’m still uncomfortable with, but will usually tolerate in other players. Abuse, despite experiencing it, I’m ok with, assuming a level of understanding has been reached between the participants. Nudity … well that’s up to the person getting naked, though I’ll probably look away when the underwear goes.