[quote=“Stephanie”]Dealing with objectionable behaviour is always going to be tricky, but I do have one suggestion for people who want to give feedback about something they don’t like: make the comment once, and move on.
I’ve seen a number of conversations (I’m as guilty as any, I think) where someone said or did something, inadvertently or otherwise, that pissed off multiple people, and the outcome was many lengthy posts about how upset they were, leaving the offender feeling victimised, angry, and inclined to give more offence because they didn’t like being picked on. With complete respect for people’s feelings and all, that kind of post barrage just puts energy into the issue, when what’s best for the community is to lance the boil and let it heal. I suspect that if the group as a whole got into the habit of one or two (at most) mildly phrased comments about bad behaviour, people who meant well but expressed themselves poorly can say so without losing face, and repeat offenders will start to notice the pattern without a big uproar everytime they say something. Just a thought, anyway.[/quote]
And then we can rename “Diatribe” into “Pleasant Conversation” 8)
I have learned from experience here that if I’m not happy with something my best option is shut up and crawl away, otherwise if I dare say my opinion it would be seen as evil and people will misunderstand me. Can’t be bothered going through all that trouble, I’d rather abandon the conversation, and if I really need to bitch out my opinion to someone I do it outside of Diatribe.