So going back to the original post, I’m aware of some socially exclusionary behaviour going on, and it’s really getting me down. This isn’t about people being abusive or disruptive, and it isn’t at the formal level of people being asked to stay away from an event - that’s stuff that someone could actually talk about and have a chance to defend themselves. What I mean is little casual snubs that are going on - no invite to a social event, or mean spirited gossip behind someone’s back, or someone’s IC choices about helping a character being affected by OOC dislike. And it’s being directed not at abusive individuals, but at socially awkward individuals - death by a thousand cuts stuff.
So what I want to say is: Hey guys, you don’t have to like everybody in the larp community. But you know what? Making a point of saying “Hi X, I really like that thing you did this morning” to someone you don’t get on with helps them out by giving them positive feedback, and helps you out by tweaking the way you think about them. We get to choose the tone of our community. I’d really prefer supportive over backbiting, you know?